*BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO!

A terrific singer/songwriter wrote a song some time ago called, * BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO.  Neil Sadaka was the person.
Recently, I have been surrounded by various people whom have confided in me about their current break ups with their partners.  (Both female and males, males and males, females and females)  Gender did not seem to have any specific choice.
To all of us during our lifetimes this has been a major tragedy during our journeys on this planet.  The sad part of it all to me was when during an OBE and when also reading much about NDES I discovered some interesting ways of looking at these incidents.  What happened to me was that I began to acquire information that prepared me for the times my input would be requested in reference to these situations.
I would like to share some of the information or thoughts I have pondered for sometime now.
First of all I remember very well when many reported after having a Near Death Experience, they had at some point found themselves in the presence of A BEING OF LIGHT!  Many believe that this was their Creator.  All remembered a very striking question asked by this being, WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SHOW ME?  WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SHOW ME THAT YOU HAVE DONE???
Wow!  During an Out of Body Experience I remember having the "feeling" of having to answer this question due to the fact that my life was or is important that I make a very positive contribution to my fellow beings in addition to improving and enjoying my own life here on this earth.
Therefore, for some reason, when the dramas of my friends and loved ones are shared with me, instead of being evasive about the situations presented to me, I ask questions.  Questions that sometimes surprise those confronting me.  What "questions" you might be asking now.  I will give you a few examples.  I will say things such as:  (Especially when I was cognizant of them during the times they shared together).
What did the two of you feel or sense that you were contributing to both the world and yourselves before this break-up?
Don't tell me about the time spent, standing together in public or displaying affections by hand-holding or kissing or cuddling in public places, BUT, other things.  What did you think about as "individual goals" in your life during this relationship?  Were they the same with each other?  Did the other disagree too much with your goals and found their own goals of more importance?  DID THE OTHER PERSON HAVE ANY DREAMS OR GOALS???  Was standing in clubs with loud party music side by side "the most important thing in your lives?"  Was the intent of ALL those you came in contact with to make them "admire" and "feel inadequate" due to the fact that they were "alone?"  Did both of you aspire to have "trophy children" or "adopt children that were fads of the moment?"  How much did you both really have in common when it came to the question:  WHY ARE WE HERE ON THIS EARTH?  Or, did either or both of you even contemplate that question?  Why was the party so much more important for you to attend with him or her on your arm???  (The party always ends........)  In depth what did you both talk about when life became difficult and confusing?  How much did you both care about what others thought about your relationships?  Did the ideas or thoughts of others play a MAJOR part in what you did in building/cultivating your relationship?  Would either or you die or give up everything you ever dreamed of for the other???  During your relationship, did either of you begin to give up your own individuality to be a part of the other's lifestyle? Was either one of you determined to hold back the other in order to travel your own path, without consideration of the other's individuality?  AND, my very personal and sincere question to anybody would be......WHAT IF HE OR SHE HAD THEIR GENITALS REMOVED FROM THEIR BODIES, WOULD YOU STILL WANT TO BE WITH THAT PERSON AS A LOVER???  Etc. Etc. Etc.
My recent observations to this also is how many of us will still move away from someone due to the fact that they have "outgrown" that person.  How many can either admit or accept this becoming a reality!  So many of us fall back on that romantic dreamy statement.....BUT I LOVE YOU!  In this reality I have seen women stand on a street in anguish with one child at her side and pregnant yelling out to the love of her life as he slaps her and walks away from both she and the children with his pants dragging on the sidewalk.  She screams:  BUT I LOVE YOU!
What will be the answer to that question asked of either HE or SHE: WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SHOW ME?
It has become so important to me to find out or be prepared for that question.  This is a big question and it is also a most important question.
There is another song:  IS THAT ALL THERE IS? (Peggy Lee/Singer/Writer)  The song repeatedly asked the question, IS THAT ALL THERE IS? and when the song presents various unanswerable questions, it says, IF THAT'S ALL THERE IS, THEN LETS KEEP DANCING...........
A fancy cell phone is not the answer, an Ipod is not the answer, designer sunglasses etc. etc.etc.  BUT, there is an answer and I truly believe and I and you will too, find the answers to many of these questions during, THE OUT OF BODY EXPERIENCE!
More later,
Love and Light!

Marshall